How To

How To

ask for what you want and actually receive it

Many people are good at wanting and poor at receiving, asking from a place of doubt that quietly cancels the request. Receiving is a posture of the mind, a relaxed, expectant openness, and the practices that cultivate it are where every path below works.

◆ Rooted in: The Inner Creates the Outer
The Consent Path — open to a larger life
Eric Butterworth

True asking is less about demanding a thing and more about consenting to good flowing to you. Releasing the grip and saying yes to life opens the channel through which it can arrive.

The exercise
  1. Sit quietly and relax your body and breath.
  2. Instead of pleading for an outcome, affirm: ‘I am open and receptive to the good that is seeking me.’
  3. Picture yourself like a feather resting on the breeze, carried rather than struggling.
  4. Let go of how or when it must come.
  5. Rest in calm expectancy and carry that openness into the day.
→ Practice: Feather on the Breeze
The Already-Received Path — ask as one who has
Genevieve Behrend

We are told to ask believing we have already received. Sitting daily in the felt sense of the wish fulfilled trains the mind to expect, not merely hope.

The exercise
  1. Each morning, sit quietly for a few minutes.
  2. Name what you desire, then shift into the feeling of already having it.
  3. Give silent thanks as though it is done.
  4. Hold that grateful, fulfilled feeling without straining.
  5. Rise and act through the day as someone who already received.
→ Practice: Behrend's Daily Sitting
The Focus Wheel Path — close the gap to belief
Esther & Jerry Hicks (Abraham)

You cannot receive what you don’t yet believe is possible. Gently stepping the mind from doubt toward belief brings you into alignment with the wanting.

The exercise
  1. Write your desire in the center of a page.
  2. Around it, write statements you already believe that point toward it, starting where you are.
  3. Make each statement a little more positive than the last.
  4. Keep going until you reach a statement that feels genuinely good and believable.
  5. Rest in that improved feeling, then act from it.
→ Practice: The Focus Wheel

Asking is only half the act; receiving is the other half, and it is the one most people skip. Whether you consent to a larger life, sit in the already-received, or close the gap to belief, you open the relaxed, expectant hand that good can finally be placed into.